Lets Talk About Sex Baby!!

In my Women Studies class we have talked about so many different topics that could make someone uneasy but I think now we have reached that topic that everyone tries to avoid. Sex. Yes, we are now talking about sex and women’s sexuality, which I must say is very interesting. Of course it’s a tad bit different to me because I’m a male but I still take in all the information that we are discussing.

Recently we had a discussion about sex and having any knowledge about it. Whether it was from watching it on a movie or someone giving you the talk. Some parents make a priority to give their children the sex talk and some try their damn hardest to avoid the topic. I can say my parents were those parents. I have two older sisters and friends gave them the talk and they passed down the knowledge of sex to me until my cousin (who is a guy) stepped in and gave me a man’s perspective of sex. From hearing what my cousin had to say it made me think that a man can have sex when he wants and with whomever he wants, but my sisters showed me that I had to show some respect to a woman and not just think she was a sexual object. I had to actually show her I care for her and not just with her to have sex with her.

Even though my sisters and cousin had a conversation with me about sex I didn’t really start take in the information until I reached middle school. I had a couple girls that were in my class and also around the school that were pregnant. So I would ask how the girl got pregnant and people would look at just laugh at me and later say, “Because she had sex duh!” That’s when friends started to give me information about sex and how it works and what it means.

When I made it to high school sex was the “IT” thing to do. In my mind I also thought that you had to reach a certain age to have sex but I was clearly proved wrong when I was having a conversation with some of my friends. The talk of virginity came up and everybody was telling the age they lost their virginity I was just sitting there like “WOW” When they asked me I told them I still had mine and If looks could’ve killed I would’ve been dead. Throughout my years of high school I held on to my virginity as long as I could but going into my freshman year of college I felt it was only right for me to lose it, and I did. I never gave in to peer pressure or cared about what anybody had to say about me I did on my own on my own time. 

From Your Blog To Mine...

So for this blog i decided to go and read some of my fellow classmates blogs and see how they felt about some of the issues we talk about in class, and i can truly say some of the things we say are the same. Its amazing how someone you just met can share so many similar thoughts and ideas as you. I decided to read and comment on two of my classmates blogs.

Katherine Brock - http://katherinebrock.blogspot.com/2012/09/a-form-of-violent-masculinity.html

Katherine as i was reading this blog it made me think of a similar situation that i was in. I had a friend that went through the same thing. Her boyfriend actually showed emotional and physically violence to her, but she never told us. Whenever things went bad in her relationship she would fake sick so we couldn't see her or hang out until one day we surprised her and saw the marks he left on her! We were livid! but she tried to protect him. As a friend its hard to see your friend going through that much pain, i tried my best to help her get away from him but it made it worse so i had to do my job as a friend and tell her that when she is ready to leave him then do so. He threatened to take his life many times and beat her more if she left until one day she finally lifted her head up and walked out his life. To this day she is doing so much better and there is always a smile on her face! We as friends can try and try to help our friends out of a situation but until they find the strength within themselves to leave we just have to be there for them. So for your friend just be there for her, one day she will realize she is worth so much more and she will get the strength to leave! Keep being that wonderful friend for her!! :))

Loren Burke - http://alwaysawomenofkindwords.blogspot.com/2012/09/it-was-woman-in-this-case.html

Wow!!! I love this!!! I know this might sound crazy but i would rather work at a place where a woman is in charge! Its like they understand you more when things are going wrong or if you are having issues! At my job now my direct manager is a man and my supervisor is a woman and our general manager is a woman and i when i tell you she runs that store like nobodies business!! We had one incident where a customer had an issue with his purchase and asked to speak to a manager. So when our general manager walked up he immediately said "i want to speak to someone higher than her i know a man runs this store." She chuckled and said "Sir I'm the highest you can get in this store, I'm the GM" The left out of the store so quick and we all laughed! Its sad that people are that oppressive without even thinking about it! I love our General manager, she has faith in all of us and trust that we know what we are doing when it comes to our job! She randomly checks on everybody throughout the store and recently when the hurricane hit she called each one of us to make sure we were safe and didn't need anything. Its a major difference from my old job where our GM was a man. So i must say FEMALE GENERAL MANAGERS ROCK!!

Religion and Homophobia

Recently in class we have been discussing religion and sexuality.  We watched a movie entitled For the Bible Tells Me So. I must say this movie was something. Its main focus was how the church (religion) felt about homosexuality. I must say I somewhat understood how some people that are so deep in religion felt about homosexuality but watching this movie showed me that its ten times worse than I thought.

When you think of the church and homosexuality your first instinct is that it’s the most talked about “sin” there is. From watching the movie in class you could easily see that there is some truth to this. Some Christians go by the bible verse Leviticus 18:22 that basically states that homosexuality is an abomination. So many people take this scripture out of context and throw their own beliefs in with it, which is wrong.

From people being raised with this belief so strong that homosexuality the biggest wrong of all wrongs they tend to throw hatred at those who consider themselves homosexuals. Some go as far as beating and killing those who classify themselves as homosexuals. Which if you go to the bible is wrong. God is the one in control of life and death so why not concentrate on those who are killing homosexuals more than homosexuals in general. In the movie For the Bible Tells Me So a man made a comment saying they are helping God by getting rid of homosexuals. My question is since when did God need help handling his business. When it comes to religion and homosexuality it is a very touch subject that causes many arguments and disagreements.

When it comes to my community and the church that I attend, the subject of homosexuality is brought up in some discussions we have in my youth group.  All of us respect the fact that if someone is homosexual who are we to judge their life and make comments about it when we have our own issues. My church does not agree with it  but they are still accepting of that fact that we are all children of God and therefore we must continue to love and support each other.